so for most of my life i've classified people into different "groups". I think that it's pretty much part of human nature to do so. Sure, most of the time, when you think of "groups" you think of the negative sterotypes that everyone categorizes others with. For a PG example, think "jock" "cheerleader" "band dweeb".
These are not the groups of which I speak today. I have always put people into these types...I wonder where you would place yourself? I've got about 10 different groups that I categorize people in at any given time. Here are the first 5 for your thinking pleasure.
Watchers:
This is the group that I put myself in. We are the people who...notice things. We're frequently first to notice when two people are flirting.We pick up on the little things like eye rolls and sighs that the impatient person doesnt think anyone notices. We tend to be a little more withdrawn from the rest of the group because we prefer to watch than to do. We are frequently introverts by choice. We hear things, we see things, when you think that you're hiding them. We pick up on the little cues that are around us and make decisions based on them. We don't rely a lot on our gut instinct, we pay attention to what's going on and anticipate how our action will be received. We eavesdrop, not going to lie. It's not intentionally being nosy...it's just..that you're talking and you're sitting in the booth behind me and quite honestly, I have a hard time tuning you out because you're so...noticeable. People sometimes feel like they're under a microscope around us which is bad, but then at the same time, we catch the moments when you're struggling a lot sooner than others might.
The Jellyfishers:
These are my least favorite people in the world. I got the term from one of the Bridget Jones books... There you are swimming along and you think everything's fine and all of a sudden you're stung and searching for someone to pee on your leg. Jellyfishers are the people who seem friendly and nice but really they're just waiting until you least expect it to sting you with a potentially venomous bite. They are ugly and spineless and I find them revolting.
The Room Lighters:
Oh the room lighters. They are the people that other people want to be around. They are light and beautiful and attract others without even trying. I don't mean like, attract like 'damn baby you're hot'. I mean...people just want so much to have these people like them because they are so gosh darn fun. They are open and approachable and when you're at a party you can tell who they are because they are the ones that everyone else is smiling around. They make other people happier just by being there. I try to have room lighters in my life because no matter how dark your day is, when a room lighter walks into it...there's an invariable lightening.
The Perfect:
I am in awe of these people. They are the people who everything just seems to come naturally for. Everything is easy. They are impeccably dressed at walmart prices. They can articulate every thought without ever sounding like a babbling moron. They can be the perfect hostess and yet still chill with their friends and drink a natty light. They even have the audacity to have perfect eyebrows that don't need waxed or tweezed. (sometimes ;-) ) When you see their houses, they're perfectly decorated, never dirty and usually have white carpet. They don't sweat when they work out, they glisten. They're cool, confident and can eat spaghetti sauce in a white sweater without spilling a drop. How? How do you do it??? I don't get it.
The Comforters aka the Fixers:
The comforters are just nice people. They want to fix and to make it all better. I love these people but only in small doses because this is the category I like to put myself in 2nd after "watcher" and I think that when a comforter gets comforted it can be awkward because the comforter usually doesn't like to appear vulnerable. They can be a little frustrating because they want so badly for you to feel better that sometimes they stop listening and just try to fix the problem.
The Bulldozers:
Bulldozers are the doers. They just go go go all the time and break down any barrier in their way. Sometimes they can run over you because they're so worried about getting what they're thinking about accomplished. You want to be around these people when you want something done. Especially if you aren't happy with something. The bulldozers have no fear of throwing their weight around to get a better result. UNLIKE me who would rather avoid frustrating the waitress than sending back her boneless wings if they have the wrong flavor of sauce on them. I've seen Waiting one too many times, don't judge me. When a bulldozer is also a jellyfisher...that's when you REALLY gotta watch out.
3 things:
the sun has made a triumphant return
big lots! great deals on garden supplies!
waking up this morning and knowing spring is almost here before i even opened my eyes.
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Thursday, February 25, 2010
wow. i'm a bad blogger.
it's been a while! i just haven't really had a whole lot to say i guess. nothing has really been going on. plus, it's winter, and i kind of become a hermit in winter. i really dislike how cold it is so i get anti social and apparently that extends to blogging. however, for your viewing pleasure i am fiiiiiiiiiiiinally posting some rose bowl pics! So in no particular order becasue I think Blogger is stupid how you have to move things around....
This I believe is in Santa Monica on New Years Eve. We were walking and watching the sun set.
I am clearly spatially challenged as I point the wrong direction at the sign :-)
I took this myself. I think I look a little frightening but we were just goofing off in between races at one of the coolest places on earth.
SANTA ANITA RACETRACK!!! SOOOO FREAKING COOL!
so we went to this hotdog place that has been on Food Network. I will spare you the pictures of our food. It was.....awesome, but so bad for you. You might gain weight just looking at the pictures.
I made him pose in front of the ferris wheel on Santa Monica Pier
This was one of the most memorable experiences of my life.
THIS is drunky mcdrunkerson. She was easily in her 40s, as was her blood alcohol. She climbed over the back of my seat, pushed me, climbed back over to her seat and passed out for the 2nd quarter, halftime and part of the third. Her boyfriend called me Babe and tried to steal my nachos. They are why people dont like ohio state fans.
O-H!
The rose bowl float!
P and I spent a day in Orange County visiting his little sister. It was really pretty and the weather was gorgeous. I on the other hand had a touch of the stomach bug. It was NOT an alcohol induced stomach bug, it was the glorious stabbing pain in the stomach please god let there be a bathroom near by stomach bug. this is why there are no pictures of me in Orange County :-) I was a pretty princess.
This I believe is in Santa Monica on New Years Eve. We were walking and watching the sun set.
I am clearly spatially challenged as I point the wrong direction at the sign :-)
I took this myself. I think I look a little frightening but we were just goofing off in between races at one of the coolest places on earth.
SANTA ANITA RACETRACK!!! SOOOO FREAKING COOL!
so we went to this hotdog place that has been on Food Network. I will spare you the pictures of our food. It was.....awesome, but so bad for you. You might gain weight just looking at the pictures.
I made him pose in front of the ferris wheel on Santa Monica Pier
This was one of the most memorable experiences of my life.
THIS is drunky mcdrunkerson. She was easily in her 40s, as was her blood alcohol. She climbed over the back of my seat, pushed me, climbed back over to her seat and passed out for the 2nd quarter, halftime and part of the third. Her boyfriend called me Babe and tried to steal my nachos. They are why people dont like ohio state fans.
O-H!
The rose bowl float!
P and I spent a day in Orange County visiting his little sister. It was really pretty and the weather was gorgeous. I on the other hand had a touch of the stomach bug. It was NOT an alcohol induced stomach bug, it was the glorious stabbing pain in the stomach please god let there be a bathroom near by stomach bug. this is why there are no pictures of me in Orange County :-) I was a pretty princess.
Monday, January 25, 2010
great movie lines that apply to my life
"i am disinclined to acquiesce to your request"
i feel that my students say this to me whenever they read an email from me requesting them to do something. today, i sent an important email out to 54 of my students requesting them to contact me. just for fun, i added a 'read receipt' so that i could track who actually read my email. So far, 7 have read it...0 have responded.
“Oh, but anyway, Toto, we're home! Home! And this is my room - and you're all here! And I'm not gonna leave here ever, ever again because I love you all! - And oh, Auntie Em, there's no place like home.”
i am a homebody. i love my family to no end and wherever my husband and my family are...that's home. and rarely do i ever want to leave it :-)
“In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart.”
I'm one of the rarer people in the world who believe that humanity as a whole...despite it's bad apples, has more good people in it than bad. I think people are misguided...but at their very core, they are inherently good. I think that is evidenced by the kindness that comes when you least expect it...when beauty blooms out of horror. Take this story for instance... http://www.readersdigest.ca/mag/2002/10/strangers.html
"We all go a little mad sometimes... Haven't you?
Let's be honest...who hasn't wondered if they could benefit from counseling at some point in their lives? whether it's anxiety, depression or just needing someone to bounce ideas off of...i think counseling is not something that should be looked down upon. i also really firmly believe that everyone has to fall apart at some point, to put themselves back together stronger and better than before. recognizing that you may be a little 'crazy' at times isn't a sign of weakness...but a sign of strength that you can say 'yea, you know what...i can be vulnerable, i can need help, i can't fix this on my own.'
"Sanctuary!"
I believe that everyone regardless of who they are, what they believe needs, deserves, has to have a "safe space". Whether that means that i put my personal beliefs on hold, to make myself approachable to a student or a friend in crisis so that i can be that safe space for them...or that when my husband holds me, i feel like nothing in the world can hurt me... sanctuary is vital.
“I guarantee that we’ll have tough times. And I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us will want to get out. But I also guarantee that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart you are the only one for me.”
why does this apply to my life? well,because i really believe that marriage is forever. i'm not one of those people who thinks that people who have successful marriages are 100% in love with eachother all the time...but they LOVE eachother, and they stick it out through the hard times. a friend of mine had a great quote at her wedding that said "love is not an island, love is the tide..it ebbs and flows...but marriage, marriage is the island, the committment to be together through the ebb and the flow and make a firm solid life together is constant." I believe this because my parents have been married for 36 years...and i know, one hundred percent, that they haven't always liked eachother very much. but, they are committed to eachother, bound to eachothers hearts... and that to me speaks volumes about what love really means.
and lastly...on that note about love...
You know, that moment when you kiss someone and everything around you becomes hazy. And the only thing in focus is you and that person. And you realize that that person is the only person that you're supposed to kiss for the rest of your life. And for one moment you get this gift. And you want to laugh and you want to cry because you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared that it will go away all at the same time.
he's not goin anywhere...but i sure am lucky :-)
oh! he got me photoshop...here are my attempts so far.
i feel that my students say this to me whenever they read an email from me requesting them to do something. today, i sent an important email out to 54 of my students requesting them to contact me. just for fun, i added a 'read receipt' so that i could track who actually read my email. So far, 7 have read it...0 have responded.
“Oh, but anyway, Toto, we're home! Home! And this is my room - and you're all here! And I'm not gonna leave here ever, ever again because I love you all! - And oh, Auntie Em, there's no place like home.”
i am a homebody. i love my family to no end and wherever my husband and my family are...that's home. and rarely do i ever want to leave it :-)
“In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart.”
I'm one of the rarer people in the world who believe that humanity as a whole...despite it's bad apples, has more good people in it than bad. I think people are misguided...but at their very core, they are inherently good. I think that is evidenced by the kindness that comes when you least expect it...when beauty blooms out of horror. Take this story for instance... http://www.readersdigest.ca/mag/2002/10/strangers.html
"We all go a little mad sometimes... Haven't you?
Let's be honest...who hasn't wondered if they could benefit from counseling at some point in their lives? whether it's anxiety, depression or just needing someone to bounce ideas off of...i think counseling is not something that should be looked down upon. i also really firmly believe that everyone has to fall apart at some point, to put themselves back together stronger and better than before. recognizing that you may be a little 'crazy' at times isn't a sign of weakness...but a sign of strength that you can say 'yea, you know what...i can be vulnerable, i can need help, i can't fix this on my own.'
"Sanctuary!"
I believe that everyone regardless of who they are, what they believe needs, deserves, has to have a "safe space". Whether that means that i put my personal beliefs on hold, to make myself approachable to a student or a friend in crisis so that i can be that safe space for them...or that when my husband holds me, i feel like nothing in the world can hurt me... sanctuary is vital.
“I guarantee that we’ll have tough times. And I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us will want to get out. But I also guarantee that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart you are the only one for me.”
why does this apply to my life? well,because i really believe that marriage is forever. i'm not one of those people who thinks that people who have successful marriages are 100% in love with eachother all the time...but they LOVE eachother, and they stick it out through the hard times. a friend of mine had a great quote at her wedding that said "love is not an island, love is the tide..it ebbs and flows...but marriage, marriage is the island, the committment to be together through the ebb and the flow and make a firm solid life together is constant." I believe this because my parents have been married for 36 years...and i know, one hundred percent, that they haven't always liked eachother very much. but, they are committed to eachother, bound to eachothers hearts... and that to me speaks volumes about what love really means.
and lastly...on that note about love...
You know, that moment when you kiss someone and everything around you becomes hazy. And the only thing in focus is you and that person. And you realize that that person is the only person that you're supposed to kiss for the rest of your life. And for one moment you get this gift. And you want to laugh and you want to cry because you feel so lucky that you found it and so scared that it will go away all at the same time.
he's not goin anywhere...but i sure am lucky :-)
oh! he got me photoshop...here are my attempts so far.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Not a Creature was Stirring not Even a .....
Happy Holidays and a Blessed New Year to all :-)
3 things:
my family
p's family
our friends
Monday, December 21, 2009
But baby it's cold outside...
Even in the snow, life is beautiful
Lady, the 'boss mom' of the herd
Baron and Buster
Beautiful Miss Adria...my horse's favorite 'girlfriend'
Colors, my 23 year old big baby and his friend Ace in the background
*** clearly, i have been playing with free photoshop.com
Lady, the 'boss mom' of the herd
Baron and Buster
Beautiful Miss Adria...my horse's favorite 'girlfriend'
Colors, my 23 year old big baby and his friend Ace in the background
*** clearly, i have been playing with free photoshop.com
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
all you need is loooove
love is all you need
the holidays are fast approaching and p and i have done ALMOST all our christmas shopping. we've got one more gift card to buy and one gift card to send to his sister. we've spent hundreds of dollars (that we budgeted for! go us!) and haven't yet spent a dime on eachother. why? well...because.
you see, both of us look forward to christmas...we look forward to going to my parents house for the giant celebration of presents and food and love and we look forward to going to his house for the post-christmas relaxation, the gift exchange and the walks in the park by his house....but with all that, comes the realization that we don't really do christmas by ourselves until January. So p finally asked me today what I wanted for christmas when we finally get to celebrate after the new year....and my immediate answer was PHOTOSHOP. I covet photoshop. I lust for photoshop. I WANT it BAD.
but the thing is...he could get me nothing and my christmas with him would be perfect. he doesn't need to take me to dinner...to do anything special. because all I need...is love. and I know so well that i have that. I have his love. what greater gift could he give me?
9 days out of 10 i'm a normal rational human being...but that 10th day, damn can i be a basketcase. my anxiety will rear up and kick me in the butt...and of course i take it out on him. my worrying about things that might never happen make me fuss and fret and snarl...i can be bossy and i can be demanding and moody and in general just a sasspants. and...he still loves me.
i can have total meltdowns over my lack of confidence and fears and sulk and cry..and he still loves me.
i can be jealous and a jerk....and he loves me because of it.
that, my husband, is all i ever need from you.
i am SUCH a lucky girl.
so...just to keep this from being nauseatingly sappy.....i still reaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllly WANT photoshop. hint hint husband...hint hint!
blessings: this face is worth all 3
the holidays are fast approaching and p and i have done ALMOST all our christmas shopping. we've got one more gift card to buy and one gift card to send to his sister. we've spent hundreds of dollars (that we budgeted for! go us!) and haven't yet spent a dime on eachother. why? well...because.
you see, both of us look forward to christmas...we look forward to going to my parents house for the giant celebration of presents and food and love and we look forward to going to his house for the post-christmas relaxation, the gift exchange and the walks in the park by his house....but with all that, comes the realization that we don't really do christmas by ourselves until January. So p finally asked me today what I wanted for christmas when we finally get to celebrate after the new year....and my immediate answer was PHOTOSHOP. I covet photoshop. I lust for photoshop. I WANT it BAD.
but the thing is...he could get me nothing and my christmas with him would be perfect. he doesn't need to take me to dinner...to do anything special. because all I need...is love. and I know so well that i have that. I have his love. what greater gift could he give me?
9 days out of 10 i'm a normal rational human being...but that 10th day, damn can i be a basketcase. my anxiety will rear up and kick me in the butt...and of course i take it out on him. my worrying about things that might never happen make me fuss and fret and snarl...i can be bossy and i can be demanding and moody and in general just a sasspants. and...he still loves me.
i can have total meltdowns over my lack of confidence and fears and sulk and cry..and he still loves me.
i can be jealous and a jerk....and he loves me because of it.
that, my husband, is all i ever need from you.
i am SUCH a lucky girl.
so...just to keep this from being nauseatingly sappy.....i still reaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllly WANT photoshop. hint hint husband...hint hint!
blessings: this face is worth all 3
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